10 November 2013
Of Loss and Regrets… and Getting Through...
“I do not know anymore…”
This was not a line from Janet Napoles during the Senate Hearing for PDAF Scam but from a colleague/very close friend of mine who is grieving the sudden and unexpected loss of his wife. 42 years of marriage and suddenly he is alone.
“I should have been kinder…”
“I should have treated her better…”
But then, looking back now I cannot imagine what “kinder” and “better” could he have done considering that he was such a kind, devoted, loving companion to his then-frail wife.
Of course, I know where he’s coming from. There will always be regrets. There will always be words that were left unsaid and intentions that were left undone. We can never have enough time to show enough love.
How do you make the most of your time with your loved ones? How do you make each moment count? I wish I have the answers for him. But after 9 years of coping with my own loss, the same “regrets” still haunt me…
“I should have…”
“I could have…”
“Why didn’t I…???"
As I have painfully learned in my own journey, one never gets over grief. You just learn to get through it…
Posted by: Bing Yap at 1:09 PM 2 POINTS OF VIEW
Labels: Bereavement, coping with grief, dealing with pain, death, death of spouse, Grief, loss of a spouse, overcoming grief, picking up the pieces after a tragic loss, starting over after loss, sudden tragic loss
04 November 2013
Dona Nobis Pacem… A Reverie...
and I can make it happen...
Because it all begins with
One voice…
One subject…
One day...
I'm a dreamer, but I'm not the only one
I hope some day you'll join us
And the world will be as one.”
A pocketful of sunshine and

Posted by: Bing Yap at 7:46 PM 8 POINTS OF VIEW
Labels: a mother's love, Blog Blast for Peace, Dona Nobis Pacem, Hope, peace, poetry
02 November 2013
Flowers to Show our Love
As we walked to the shore, the sound of the waves filled the air of silence between us. Raging waters threatened to drench our feet but we were unmindful. We were there for a reason.
Each whispering a prayer for James, my children and I took turns throwing flowers and loose petals into the sea. We had a bag full of them, you see.
The wind roared loudly... The sky turned gloomy… The waves raged to shore… Perhaps heaven heard us.
Time may have eased the pain and helped us mend the broken pieces of our fragile lives but… We still cope with grief one day at a time until now… even after almost 9 long years.
Posted by: Bing Yap at 3:59 PM 2 POINTS OF VIEW
Labels: child's Grief, Coping, coping with grief, dealing with pain, Family, family love, finding closure, gone too soon, James, loss of a father, Loss of a Husband, picking up the pieces after a tragic loss, remembering
17 October 2013
Life Now...
Warmest greetings from my family to yours!
A few months ago, my children's "yaya" (babysitter) of 17 years decided to move back with her family and start taking care of her own grandchildren. She came to us when my second child was only an infant. I would not have managed to cope when we lost James had it not been for yaya's strong and reassuring presence at home. She took on the role of "mom" to my kids while I went out to search for our missing family member and worked to bring home the bacon, so to speak.
It has been a totally different life since then. A new journey for me and my kids... a grand time at reviving and redecorating our home... Oh... and I'm cooking again.
My kids... how they have grown!!!
Believe me, it's a whole new adventure for me... Real motherhood at its best!
*Woman and Super Mom images credit: Google
Posted by: Bing Yap at 5:12 PM 2 POINTS OF VIEW
Labels: don't mess with my kids, Family, family love, home maintenance, home sweet home, Motherhood, my home, overcoming grief, Super Mom











