In God’s Perfect Time, Everything is Beautiful

Life may not always go according to our plans,

but that doesn’t mean things are not happening as they should.

Patience has always been a challenge for me. Like many, I’ve often found myself wanting things to happen on my schedule, whether it’s reaching career milestones, personal goals, or even seeing loved ones succeed. The waiting period can be frustrating, full of uncertainty and doubt. Yet, over time, I’ve learned a humbling and liberating truth: in God’s perfect time, everything is beautiful.

One of the earliest lessons I received in waiting on divine timing came during a difficult period in my life. I was in a season of uncertainty, juggling personal responsibilities, professional demands, and the weight of unanswered prayers. Every day felt like a test of endurance, and I found myself constantly questioning why things weren’t falling into place as I had hoped. The longer I waited for clarity and resolution, the more impatient I became. It felt as though my life was stuck in a standstill.

During this time, I began to lean more into faith, finding solace in the belief that perhaps there was a bigger picture I wasn’t seeing yet. A particular moment that stands out to me is a conversation I had with someone who simply said, “In God’s perfect time, everything is beautiful.” It wasn’t just the words, but the calm assurance with which they were spoken, that struck me. Those words became a lifeline during a period of struggle, reminding me to trust the process instead of rushing it.

One of the most powerful things I’ve come to understand about God’s timing is that it is not meant to frustrate us, but to shape us. There have been moments in my life where, looking back, I can see why certain doors didn’t open when I thought they should. At the time, the delay felt like a roadblock, but now I see it was protection, preparation, or simply a lesson I needed to learn before moving forward. Those moments of delay weren’t wasted—they were times of growth. God was teaching me patience, humility, and, most importantly, trust.

Looking back now, I realize that every delay, every period of waiting, has shaped me in ways I couldn’t have imagined. I’m more patient than I once was, more willing to surrender control to the hands of something greater than myself. I’ve come to understand that when we force things to happen on our terms, we often miss out on the fullness of what was meant to be. But when we allow life to unfold in God’s perfect time, everything falls into place in ways more beautiful than we could have ever orchestrated ourselves.

In moments of reflection, I now see that the journey itself, with all its detours and delays, holds its own kind of beauty. It’s not always about the destination or the outcome, but the person we become while we wait. The growth, the learning, and the deeper trust in God’s plan all add layers of meaning to our lives.

As I continue navigating the different seasons of life, especially in my role at work and as a parent, I’m reminded daily that not everything will go according to my plan. But that’s okay. I’ve learned to trust the timing of things more, and to appreciate the beauty that comes with letting go and allowing God’s perfect time to reveal itself.

In the end, I’ve realized that the beauty in God’s timing is not just in what we receive, but in how we are transformed while we wait. And that, I believe, is one of the greatest gifts life can offer.

A pocketful of sunshine and 

Why Just Survive When You Can Thrive

𝐋𝐢𝐟𝐞’𝐬 𝐭𝐨𝐨 𝐬𝐡𝐨𝐫𝐭 𝐟𝐨𝐫 𝐛𝐨𝐫𝐢𝐧𝐠—𝐞𝐦𝐛𝐫𝐚𝐜𝐞 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐜𝐡𝐚𝐨𝐬, 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐣𝐨𝐲, 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐚𝐥𝐥 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐰𝐢𝐥𝐝 𝐢𝐧 𝐛𝐞𝐭𝐰𝐞𝐞𝐧!

"Why just survive when you can thrive?” is more than just a motivational catchphrase; it’s a powerful reminder to live with intention. In a world that often encourages us to just get by, this question challenges the mindset of mere survival and invites us to embrace a life filled with meaning, growth, and joy.

Survival is a basic instinct, something we are all wired for. Whether we are navigating personal challenges, demanding careers, or simply trying to balance the complexities of daily life, survival can feel like an accomplishment in itself. There are times when surviving is necessary—when the goal is simply to make it through the day. But staying in survival mode for too long can cause us to miss out on the deeper, richer experiences that life has to offer.

Thriving, on the other hand, is about more than just getting by—it’s about flourishing in all areas of life. It means taking time to nurture our passions, relationships, and well-being. It’s a mindset shift from “I have to” to “I get to.” Thriving involves setting goals that inspire us, pursuing them with enthusiasm, and celebrating progress along the way. It’s about finding fulfillment in the small moments as much as the big accomplishments.

For me, this realization came during a period of intense professional and personal pressure. The demands of work were relentless, and between that and managing family life, it often felt like I was in a constant state of survival. My days were filled with tasks and responsibilities, but there was little room for joy, growth, or reflection. I was doing everything I needed to, but I wasn’t doing much that fed my soul.

It was my daughter, Jazzy, who reminded me to look beyond the grind. Seeing her approach life with such wonder and curiosity made me question my own approach. Was I simply enduring my day-to-day existence, or was I fully embracing it? This question became the turning point that pushed me toward thriving. I started finding moments to reconnect with the things that brought me joy—whether that was spending more time with family, prioritizing my health, or simply enjoying the peace of a quiet morning.

Thriving doesn’t mean we avoid challenges or hardships. In fact, it means we face them with resilience and purpose. It’s about finding the balance between productivity and rest, ambition and gratitude. It’s allowing ourselves to live authentically, to push for growth, but also to give ourselves grace.

The journey from survival to thriving is personal for everyone, and it doesn’t happen overnight. It requires an intentional shift in how we approach our lives. For me, it meant embracing the chaos and beauty of being both a prosecutor and a parent, learning to prioritize my own well-being, and letting go of the idea that I had to do it all perfectly.

At the end of the day, thriving is about recognizing that life is not just something to be endured but something to be experienced fully. Why just survive when you can thrive? We only get one chance at this life, and it’s up to us to make it as vibrant and fulfilling as we can.

A pocketful of sunshine and 

Moving Forward

Learning resilience and forgiveness after facing injustice and tragedy can feel like an overwhelming journey. 

Resilience comes from enduring hardships, finding ways to rebuild, and drawing strength from the pain. It’s not just about surviving but also adapting, growing, and finding hope again despite the emotional scars.

Forgiveness, on the other hand, can be even more challenging. It doesn’t mean forgetting or excusing the wrong done. Instead, it’s about releasing the hold that bitterness and anger can have over your heart. It’s a step toward healing, allowing you to regain control over your emotional well-being.

Both resilience and forgiveness require time, self-reflection, and a commitment to growth. Embracing them allows you to move forward without letting the tragedy define your future.

A pocketful of sunshine and 

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Dreaming of Justice: A Lawyer’s Personal Journey Through Injustice

 

There is a deep irony in being a lawyer—someone trained to navigate the law and defend justice—while simultaneously facing injustice in your own life. The day I experienced this for myself, my understanding of justice shifted. It became more personal, more urgent, and more complex. 

The experience was a humbling one. It made me realize that justice is not just about knowing the law or having access to it. It is also about the structures, people, and biases that shape its application. No matter how well-meaning the laws are, they are filtered through human hands—hands that can be swayed by prejudice, money, and power. In that moment, I felt the weight of what so many of my clients had told me: that justice, while promised to all, is often a privilege for the few.

Despite experiencing injustice firsthand, I still believe in the importance of striving for justice. My personal struggles have only reinforced my desire to help others—especially those who may not have the resources or knowledge to fight for themselves. I now understand more deeply the frustrations of clients who feel unheard or marginalized, and I am more determined than ever to use my skills and experience to make a difference.

I dream of a day when the legal system will truly reflect the ideals it was founded on—a day when every individual, regardless of race, gender, or socioeconomic status, will receive fair treatment under the law. This may seem like an impossible dream, but it is one worth chasing. While I know the system will never be perfect, I believe it can be better. Every case, every reform, and every challenge to the status quo is a step closer to a fairer world.

Injustice is a bitter pill to swallow, especially for someone who has dedicated their life to fighting against it. But my experience has given me a deeper understanding of what it means to seek justice. It is not just about winning cases or upholding the law; it is about constantly pushing for a system that is more just, more equitable, and more compassionate. Even in the face of personal setbacks, I continue to dream of a future where justice is not just a dream, but a reality for all. This dream, though elusive, keeps me going, reminding me that every fight for justice—no matter how small—is a step toward making that dream come true.

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Chasing Justice: A Dream That Stands the Test of Time

For some, justice is swift. For others, it is a pursuit that stretches over years, even decades—a distant horizon that seems to retreat the closer one gets. The dream of finding elusive justice can haunt a person for over 20 years or more, becoming a defining part of their identity and life’s journey. In my profession as a prosecutor, I’ve witnessed both the relief of swift justice and the agony of its delay. Yet, what is most remarkable are those who continue to fight, even after the world has turned its attention elsewhere. Their persistence speaks to a deeper truth: the belief that justice, no matter how delayed, is worth pursuing. 

The Emotional Toll of Waiting 

 For those seeking justice, especially after two decades or more, the emotional toll is immense. Hope is a double-edged sword—keeping you going but often cutting deep as the years drag on without resolution. Anger, frustration, and weariness all begin to settle in like unwelcome companions. The injustice begins to feel like a shadow, following you in every aspect of life. Yet, there’s a spark that keeps burning—a dream that remains, even in the darkest moments. It’s not just about the wrong that needs to be corrected; it’s about the principle. It’s about ensuring that the truth matters, and that those who were wronged can one day stand in the light of what is right. 

  The Systemic Challenges 

Often, those in pursuit of long-delayed justice face more than just emotional hurdles. Legal systems can be slow-moving, complicated by bureaucracy, and, in some cases, designed to discourage reopening old wounds. Evidence can degrade, memories can fade, and witnesses may move on. It’s a challenging reality that many face in these prolonged battles for accountability. However, history has shown us that justice isn’t always bound by time. Cases that seemed cold for decades can suddenly break wide open thanks to new technologies, fresh evidence, or even public attention. DNA testing, for example, has exonerated people decades after wrongful convictions, and digital forensics are constantly evolving. 

The Power of Perseverance 

 Those who continue to chase justice for 20 years or more are often driven by a deep sense of purpose. Whether they’re fighting for a loved one, a cause, or their own vindication, their perseverance becomes a testament to the enduring nature of the human spirit. It’s about refusing to let injustice have the final word. We’ve seen cases where families relentlessly pursue the truth, even after law enforcement has closed the book. We’ve seen communities rally to demand answers, even when the odds seem insurmountable. The dream of justice, though elusive, remains a guiding star for these individuals—a promise that one day, truth will prevail. 

Why the Dream Matters 

 Even after 20 years, the dream of justice is more than just a personal battle; it’s a fight for the very foundations of society. Justice delayed may feel like justice denied, but it is still a reminder that our legal and moral systems are works in progress, and that the fight is ongoing. The pursuit of justice, no matter how elusive, ensures that future generations inherit a world where truth is valued and accountability is demanded. The dream of justice might take a lifetime to realize, but its impact, once found, echoes for generations. So, for anyone still searching, still fighting, after 20 years or more: your journey matters. The pursuit is worth it. Keep dreaming, keep pushing. Justice may be elusive, but it is never beyond reach.

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